Choice Theory, developed by Dr. William Glasser, is the explanation of As Dr. Glasser explains in the most recent of his widely read books, Choice Theory, all. Therapy” represent the life's work of the late psychiatrist and author. William Glasser. Choice Theory rests on the belief that all human behavior. Introduction to Choice Theory: Teaching Students. Responsible Behavior. A Distance Learning Graduate Course. Based on the Work of Dr. William Glasser.

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→ Degree in Chemical Engineering. – → Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology. – → Established Educator's Training. Center to create a model. Reality Therapy is an approach to counselling developed by Dr William Glasser in the. United States in the s and s. Choice Theory explains why. What is Choice Theory? ▫ Theory developed by William Glasser, M.D., that is put into practice via. Reality Therapy. ▫ Belief that unsatisfactory or non-existent.

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Sometimes the good feeling takes longer to arrive. But I will get there, if I have the courage to keep working at it — and it will help greatly if I have friends to help me along the way.

This raises an important point about the things we want: Sometimes I cannot move ahead unless I change what I want. For a time, part of the pain I am in comes from wanting something I can never have or can never have again. This wanting and this pain is part of grieving. But eventully, to be able to get on with my life, I must be willing to give more of my attention to other needs and wants in my life. This is so even though when I start to do this I will still be in pain.

It is a bit like taking a picture and moving it to the back of your album instead of keeping it at the front. So in order to bring about change in our lives, we must do something different or change what we want. If I want to be a good athlete but I spend my mornings in bed, I must change what I do — get up and start running instead of snoozing — or change what I want — perhaps decide that what I really want out of life is to be a couch potato.

We can also change what we think and this is helpful but sometimes our emotions are so strong — with grief or depression for instance — that all we can change is what we do, and our thoughts have to follow afterwards.

Everybody Needs Control We try to control ourselves, people and situations to meet our needs or to get what we want. Everybody needs a certain amount of control to meet their needs for power, belonging, freedom and fun. You need a certain amount of control but so does your partner. The boss needs a certain amount of control but so does the worker. The parent needs a certain amount of control but so does the child. When people fail to recognise that the other person also has a need for control, the stage is set for conflict.

If, however, we are willing to negotiate and compromise we can find ways to cooperate and create a better life. Sometimes we ask for what we want. This respects the sense of control of both parties. Sometimes instead of asking, we demand what we want. Control is all around us. A better way to control that situation might be to talk to my boss or my union or to look for another job.

If I download a lottery ticket I am trying to exercise a little bit of control over my future, however poor the chances of winning.

I might achieve the same objective, more surely, if I put money into a savings account or pension plan. Here are the two key points about control: 1.

Regardless of how we feel we almost always have some control over what we do. If you do something that is better than what you are doing now, there is a good chance that your thoughts and feelings will also change in a more positive direction, even though the change may not come straight away.

Conflict in Choice Theory and Reality Therapy People seem to fight over everything from how a country should be governed to how the living room should be decorated. It is as if conflict arises from very fundamental aspects of how our minds work.

Some causes of conflict, from the point of view of Choice Theory and Reality Therapy, are these: Differences in what we want. Each of us has many thousands of ideas or pictures of what we want. We may want a particular belief , such as socialism, dictatorship, Catholicism or Islam, to prevail. We may want to have a certain person all to ourselves. We may want to live in a certain part of a certain city.

Attempts to get what we want can bring us into conflict with other people, especially if we refuse to accept and tolerate the fact that others want different things than what we want. I want to play my music loud and you want peace and quiet. I want to drink and you want me to clean the house.

I want one party to win the election and you want another. I want to dress casually and you want to dress formally. The conflict does not have to be between me and another person. It can be in me alone. I may want to overeat and want to be slim at the same time, for instance, or I may want to have an income but not want to work. Satisfying our fundamental needs. Satisfying my need for power will bring me into conflict with other people who have an equally strong need for power.

Satisfying my need for freedom will bring me into conflict with people who have a strong need for power or belonging in the case of belonging I may be mistreating a loved one by indulging my need for freedom. Satisfying my need for fun may bring me into conflict with other people too. Generally speaking, conflicts can be thought of as true or false.

A true conflict has no satisfactory solution, at least in the short term. True Conflicts In a true conflict there is no single solution which will satisfy both sides. In a false conflict there is a solution, often tough and unpalatable, which will resolve the issue. Mary insists that she wants to live in Dublin, John insists that he wants to live in London.

Neither is willing to live anywhere outside of one of these cities. This is a true conflict.

There is no solution which will satisfy both. How might they handle this conflict?

Here are some possibilities good and bad, satisfying and unsatisfying, from the perspective of Reality Therapy and Choice Theory: 1. Keep the conflict going. One way is to keep the conflict going for a long time. This could include fighting, threatening, coaxing, sulking resenting, depressing getting depressed , getting sick or drinking to name but a few. This may be ineffective and painful and could destroy the relationship. Turn it over to time. In other words, postpone a decision and get on with doing things which both find meet their needs.

The things which meet their needs may not be the same for each of them — what matters is that each can put his or her energies into satisfying activities in which they are not in conflict, while postponing a decision on the major conflict. Perhaps Mary wants to do an evening course which will take three months. Perhaps John wants to join a health club and get into shape. The world never stands still and something may happen in the meantime to resolve the situation that they are most in conflict about — which city to live in.

Try it and see. A third approach is to agree to try one solution for a time and then to assess whether it is acceptable to both parties.

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So John might agree that they will live in Dublin for four months and then look at the situation again. This approach is common in industrial relations — usually where the union agrees to try out a new work arrangement and the management agrees to a joint review after six months or a year.

Grieving over someone who has died or over a relationship which has irrevocably ended or over a situation which has changed for the worse perhaps children grieving because their parents have split up is an example of a true conflict. There is a conflict between wanting the old situation and having to live in the new. There is no immediate solution which will resolve the conflict in a satisfactory way. Only time, and doing other things which are satisfying, will heal the grief.

False Conflicts There is no true conflict between maintaining my weight at its present level and eating all I like — so long as I am willing to run many miles a day. There is no true conflict between working and studying for a degree — so long as I am prepared to spend my evenings studying and my money on fees instead of other things. If there is a single behaviour which would resolve it, then the conflict is a false conflict. Perhaps we stay because we are afraid of failure if we try to go it alone, or for the sake of someone else caught in the same bad relationship or because we need the money to educate our children.

So there are good and bad reasons for staying in a false conflict. Good reasons often reflect our values: doing our best for our children, for instance. Bad reasons may have to do with fear, a poor self-image or a habit of blaming the rest of the world for our problems.

Choice Theory, Reality Therapy and Depression In Reality Therapy and Choice Theory, depression is seen as a way of dealing with the gulf between what we have and what we want.

Because depression is seen in this way, Choice Theory always holds out the possibility of overcoming depression. And, as is clear below, Choice Theory does not see depression as being bad all the time. Sometimes it is better than the alternatives — what is important is not to trap ourselves in depression.

What is more important is to know that the path out of depression begins with changing what we want or changing how we behave. Depression can do four things for us and knowing what these are can help us to begin the climb out into the light.

These four things can be thought of under the letters ACHE. A for Anger Depression is often considered an alternative to anger and sometimes it can be better to choose depression than anger.

If you make a habit of lashing out when anything goes wrong, you can alienate other people and often make matters worse. Consider how many relationships anger has destroyed. Consider how many lives anger has destroyed. Anger has its place, and it often gives us the energy for change, or the energy to stand up for ourselves. But it can be destructive too. Depression can be a safe, temporary alternative to anger.

It becomes unsafe when it goes on for too long. C for Control Depression gives us a certain amount of control over people and situations.Relationship dysfunction may spring from underlying neurological disorder, personality disorder APA, or addiction Bradshaw, : suggesting that in some cases relationships or their lack may be a symptom of, rather than the problem underlying, client distress. One vivid example is his presentation of a graph of human technical progress as compared to human progress since Glasser, , which seems entirely arbitrary, ignoring the changes in human and civil rights over the period; for example decolonization, suffrage for women and African Americans, gay rights, the legalisation of contraception and the acknowledgement of the criminal status of rape within a marriage.

A true conflict has no satisfactory solution, at least in the short term. Keep the conflict going. The parent needs a certain amount of control but so does the child.